Wanting Connection Without Turning It Into a Verdict Most of us want to be thought of. Not in some dramatic, needy way. Just in the ordinary human way. It feels good when someone says, “I made us reservations.” Or, “Come sit on the porch for a while.” Or, “I was thinking of you.” Or even,Continue reading “Wanting Connection Without Turning It Into a Verdict”
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Pause Before Reacting: Finding Wisdom in Low Moods
The Power of the Present Moment We’ve all been there – that split second when irritation or frustration rises up. Our thoughts start spinning, pulling up past grievances and projecting into an imagined future conflict. Before we know it, we’re swept away by our own negativity. A Moment of Clarity A client recently shared aContinue reading “Pause Before Reacting: Finding Wisdom in Low Moods”
Today’s Garbage
Imagine… I walked to the alley to drop a few bags in the garbage. When I opened the back gate, the bin wasn’t where it should be. Immediately, I knew it was the waste carriers – I’d seen them do the same careless thing multiple times up and down the alley. This is the firstContinue reading “Today’s Garbage”
It’s a Binary Choice
As we go through the day we have thousands of thoughts coursing through awareness of all sorts – practical, happy, sad, memories, plans, judgments, criticisms, fantasies – the list is endless. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. The amount of thinking we have, the speed of our thinking, the tone of our thinking, theContinue reading “It’s a Binary Choice”
The Bricks in Your Head
About three years ago, my wife and I decided to brick our backyard. We have two big trees that cast shade across the yard throughout the growing season; those, combined with four dogs meant no grass and plenty of mud. We had a hard time finding the bricks we wanted to use, but when weContinue reading “The Bricks in Your Head”
The Wasps in Your Head
Last week, I was with a client who was struggling. We were discussing the role Thought plays in creating our moment-to-moment experience of life. When I asked him if it was making sense to him, he said, “Yeah. So what you’re saying is that I need to push away or smack down the bad thinkingContinue reading “The Wasps in Your Head”
Vacation Mind
It’s vacation season and a client recently sent me a photograph while he was in Florida. It included a view of the ocean, a few people playing in the water, sand, his tanned ankles and feet, and closer to the camera, some pages of an article I’d given him to read about the 3 PrinciplesContinue reading “Vacation Mind”
ReBoot the Story
I had an interesting conversation with a client recently – I’ll call him ‘Joe’. He is a really bright, accomplished man who has everything in the world going for him, except… Like the rest of us, Joe has his spots that are sticky for him – covered with Velcro – you know, those places whereContinue reading “ReBoot the Story”
Our Relationship to Our Thinking
I know I’ve written this before; still, it bears repeating: we are always thinking and always feeling our moment-to-moment thinking. That is axiomatic – you can’t return to it too much. But, what I want to talk about now is how our RELATIONSHIP to our thinking is really far more important than the contents ofContinue reading “Our Relationship to Our Thinking”
Connection, Intimacy, and Thought
Have you ever been with someone while they were talking with you and realized somewhere in the midst of them speaking that you haven’t heard anything that they said? If so, you’re not alone. I’ve done that more than I care to admit. Whether with a client, a friend, a coworker, or my wife Ami,Continue reading “Connection, Intimacy, and Thought”