Here is something that sounds simple and isn’t. You are not your thoughts. I don’t mean that in a motivational-poster kind of way. I mean it literally. The thoughts running through your head right now — about this article, about your day, about yourself — are something you are having. They are not you. MostContinue reading “You Are Not Your Thinking”
Author Archives: Vincent Flammini
Wanting Connection Without Turning It Into a Verdict
Wanting Connection Without Turning It Into a Verdict Most of us want to be thought of. Not in some dramatic, needy way. Just in the ordinary human way. It feels good when someone says, “I made us reservations.” Or, “Come sit on the porch for a while.” Or, “I was thinking of you.” Or even,Continue reading “Wanting Connection Without Turning It Into a Verdict”
Pause Before Reacting: Finding Wisdom in Low Moods
The Power of the Present Moment We’ve all been there – that split second when irritation or frustration rises up. Our thoughts start spinning, pulling up past grievances and projecting into an imagined future conflict. Before we know it, we’re swept away by our own negativity. A Moment of Clarity A client recently shared aContinue reading “Pause Before Reacting: Finding Wisdom in Low Moods”
Is Inner Strain Just a Dashboard Light? A New Perspective
What if the feeling of inner strain is less a verdict on you and more like a dashboard light — a sign that you’re getting pulled into the swirl of thought?
A Note on Mind, Consciousness, and Thought
If you’re new to this way of thinking, you might hear terms like Mind, Consciousness, and Thought and wonder what they mean. These aren’t ideas to memorize—they’re more like signs pointing toward something you already know deep down, something you’ve felt before but maybe never had words for. So, instead of starting with definitions, let’sContinue reading “A Note on Mind, Consciousness, and Thought”
Today’s Garbage
Imagine… I walked to the alley to drop a few bags in the garbage. When I opened the back gate, the bin wasn’t where it should be. Immediately, I knew it was the waste carriers – I’d seen them do the same careless thing multiple times up and down the alley. This is the firstContinue reading “Today’s Garbage”
Presence
We’ve all been there – that split second when we feel a wave of irritation or frustration rising. Our thoughts start spinning, drawing up past grievances and projecting into an imagined future conflict. If we’re not careful, we can get swept away by the undertow of our negativity. This is where the timeless wisdom ofContinue reading “Presence”
Content and Capacity
At the heart of life, there are two fundamental ways we can use our minds. In the first approach, we get caught up in the constant flow of thoughts, feelings, and sensations – what could be called the “content” of the mind. This content includes any mental experience, whether a thought, emotion, bodily sensation orContinue reading “Content and Capacity”
Not Just What but How
Today, a client shared something lovely with me. They mentioned feeling at ease in my presence and credited my voice for this sense of calm. It was a sweet observation, especially since I hadn’t been doing anything special, just speaking a bit more slowly—something I picked up from George Pransky. He speaks slowly to inviteContinue reading “Not Just What but How”
A No Good Horrible Very Bad Day
It started this morning. I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Not for any reason I can pinpoint, but an off mood nonetheless. At breakfast I was making eggs for my wife and feeding the dogs and thinking all along how selfish she was for sitting there. I do so much! NoneContinue reading “A No Good Horrible Very Bad Day”